anniversary alert
at the beginning of the month i celebrated my 32nd anniversary with my husband. i’ve often been asked, since my husband and i might be a dying breed (32 years is somewhat remarkable in this day and age to be married) if i’d ever thought about divorce. the answer is unequivocally no. murder, yes. divorce, no. for those of you married for any length of time understand that sometimes you can be that mad at someone you love so deeply. but for this anniversary (actually all of them) it was with cheerful hearts that my husband and i set off for a lovely evening out and about town. i couldn’t help but think of an anniversary celebrated years ago, i think it was our 12th, when our three boys ages 11, 7, and 4 pooled their allowances together, made a dinner reservation, and wrote a beautiful handwritten note that i’ve saved all these years. i still remember the name of the restaurant – First Class – because that’s what they thought would be the best restaurant in town. oh how i loved raising those rascals! and how i’ve loved being married all these years. for certain, marriage isn’t for the faint of heart. you absolutely have to put someone else’s needs before your own, but still carve out who you are in the mix. it’s a comforting thought, knowing that on the flip side my husband has been doing the exact same thing for 32 years. i guess that might be one reason why we’re still holding hands through this journey we call life.
labels: dress c/o Talbots; jacket c/o Talbots; clutch (similar here) c/o Talbots; sandals c/o Talbots (similar here)
Congratulations! We are indeed a dying breed. My husband and I will have been together for 30 years next May (15 years of those legally married, but we felt married from the get-go.), and people’s jaws drop when they find out how long we’ve been together. Relationships just don’t have that kind of longevity anymore. People break up for the most spurious of reasons… but that makes a kind of sense, since they probably married for the most spurious of reasons. Paul and I are best friends as well as spouses, and I think that that in itself is a rarity with couples. Undoubtedly, that is part of the problem. It seems to me that a lot of husbands and wives don’t even like each other, but feel that it’s the “right time” to get married, as “all their friends are doing it” or they want to have children “before it’s too late”. Wrong reasons to get married. One can’t depend on something as fleeting as lust to drive the choice of a spouse either. If you want it to last, it has to be something you not only feel is right in your heart, but right in your brain as well!
hi mimi,
thanks, for sharing your journey! it’s wonderful to have your husband as your best friend. isn’t it great that there’s someone in the world who has your back?!
xxoo beth
Congratulations! July 29th my husband and I celebrated our 37th anniversary, and have three children, now all in their thirties and married with children also! It’s a wonderful gift to grow together and come to where you have the time to really enjoy your life together! Love your pretty outfit – it shows that your anniversary is indeed special! PS Picture of us this spring in the Carribean.
hi kathleen,
congrats, on 37 years! it’s so rewarding to grow together as a couple, and family. wishing you many more years of happiness.
xxoo beth
Congratulations to you, and also to Kathleen and Mimi. We might be a dying breed, but we are especially blessed.
It will be 30 years this Pearl Harbour day for us. Like you I adore my husband. We are best friends and lovers. I met him the day I arrived at College aged 17 and we fell instantly in love, and it has only deepened with the years. We were engaged on my 20th birthday, and married when I was 21 and he was 23. I still feel a tingle of excitement when I see his car parked at his work when I drive past!
Your children sound an absolute delight. What a gorgeous gesture. It show very good parenting that they are so loving and thoughtful.
hi melissa,
it’s so gratifying to hear there are so many good marriages out there! i think a key ingredient is that your spouse is also your best friend. wishing you many more years of happiness!
xxoo beth