wear now, wear later satin pants

  1. Deanna says:

    Love those pants and both ways you have them styled. So sorry you have to deal with a flooded basement. So smart to hire someone to come out for the cleanup. Mr. Style sounds like your perfect soul mate. You are an inspiration. Thank you and god bless.

    • Beth Djalali says:

      thanks so much, Deanna. xo

      • Judy says:

        Hi Beth
        I view everyday your postings! You inspire women more than you realize… your post today was one of your best… keep inspiring women to look their best and feel their best… as a recent widow I find you inspire me to move forward. Bless you! You do make a huge difference… probably more than you realize! Kisses to your sweet pets!

  2. Lynn says:

    I love both this post and your outfits Beth. Although I am divorced rather than widowed, I can still relate to how overwhelming and often difficult it can be to deal with stuff on your own. Per my divorce agreement, my previous home went on the market and thankfully sold 6 weeks before my son graduated from high school. I bought a house and am experiencing both the joys and the pitfalls of solo home ownership.

  3. Marsha Banks says:

    Beth, your post really resonated with me. My mom became a widow at 42! And, she still had three of us at home. Now, as I get older, I often think about how hard that must have been for her. There are so many little mundane things our significant others do for us on a daily basis. I’m glad you have your family close to help you when you need and ask for it. Those satin pants are so cute! If I only had legs like yours, I’d grab them!

  4. Sandra says:

    Hi Beth
    You’re accomplishing a lot every day. Please remember to take time to get good rest. I appreciate your honesty in yoir blogs. If you need anything please let us readers know.
    Take care and hug Oscar.

  5. Gloria says:

    Oh Beth, I hear the pain in your voice and I am so sorry all over again for your loss. I completely agree that the 2nd year after losing your spouse is really hard. I lost my guy in 2019. I remember vividly the day I was standing on my patio surveying a tree that needed to be trimmed, realizing that I had to be the one to deal with the situation, and, realizing that all decisions rested on my shoulders. It was overwhelming and I cried. I am praying for you.
    And, BTW, I loved the satin pants post today. Thanks for all you do.

  6. Ann says:

    My heart grieves for you as you continue to live your life without Mr. Style, Beth, I understand that this is a normal stage for most of us who have been married to the same person for many years, but I’m sure that the loss must be lived individually by each person. Even though I have not had to experience the loss of a husband, I admire you and so appreciate your attitude and advice. Thank you for “keeping on” snd sharing your life snd tidbits of advice with your blog family!❤️

  7. Angela Grafe says:

    Dear Beth,
    Thank you being so honest! You do best!
    Immer wieder geht die Sonne auf….

  8. Julie Greene says:

    Hi Beth,

    As I am now on my late 70’s, many of my friends have lost their spouses and share your feelings about being a widow. It is hard! My husband, bless his heart, tries to help as many of the ones close by as possible.

    Love those satin pants. I love that you are willing to try so many different styles and step outside the box. Being able to color outside the lines is a gift to all to all of us who read your blog.

    Thank you,

  9. Linda C Musshorn says:

    I am about one year behind you in your widowhood and many times I have said “this wasn’t supposed to be my job!” Your blog “one year later” is something I have read and shared many times. It is just so spot on. Even though we all know others are going through similar things, there is great comfort in sharing it.

  10. Leanne says:

    Terrific look(s)!
    I wish you strength as you deal with these irritating home problems. I’m sure Mr. Style would be so very proud of your ability to rally and take care of business. God bless you and the family.

  11. Linda says:

    Thanks for sharing not only your style, but your life with us. It is always comforting to be reminded that I’m not the only one.

  12. So sorry for the tropical storm flooding your floor and having to deal with this alone. I too lost my husband suddenly 9 years ago, I have since found another wonderful man, but it is not the same as when you loose your life partner, that you had children with and all the young struggles and ups and downs you shared with him. I did not even know how to start the lawn mower as he always mowed the lawn and did all the things around the house. Until they are gone you do not realize how much you depended on them and miss them.
    All i can say is time will help and I depend on God, for all things happen for a reason, even though we don’t know what God has in store for us. My favorite scripture is Philippians 4:13
    I love these satin pants, though I don’t know if I need one more pair of light colored pants. Hum? I might have to get them. lol

  13. Linda dickey says:

    Beth, my heart goes out to you. I had to move my husband to a full care facility about six months ago. I remember sitting in a car repair waiting room in tears after having the oil changed in our vehicle for the first time in my life. It’s all those little things that add to the pain of being single after so many years. I applaud you for the grace with which you’ve moved forward, and wish you nothing but happiness in the future

  14. Eve says:

    I lost my husband of 50 years in February and the hardest part is realizing I’m not part of a couple. I miss feeling protected and knowing together we could face anything.
    You look amazing in both but the black top is perfection with those pants.

  15. Sharyn DSouza says:

    Beth : I love the way you you styled the pants – satin and denim. I would never have thought to put the two together but they look so chic on you. I am sorry you had to deal with the flood. Good choice to get the concrete floor and pros to do the clean up. I also want to thank you for sharing what loss in year two means. Everything you said resonates. I was used to handling “big” household issues (broken water line for one!) for the 4 years my husband worked in another city but now he has gone and I miss the input and support. I tell myself I did it before while working full time so I can do it now as a retired person!

  16. Paula says:

    Beth, what a heartfelt post. It must be extremely hard to go it alone and have to do it all. I can’t even imagine it but thank you for your honesty on losing a spouse. As a grief counselor I want to say what you said is very true about the long journey of losing someone. Everyone goes through it differently.
    Love the pants and the two outfits. Take care!

  17. Sangita M says:

    Beth, I feel your pain as I am in the same boat as you, especially when trying to get repairs done while running a buisness. I too am finding year 2 is harder having lost my love in 2019. But your post everyday gives me joy and something to look forward to! I just love all your inspirations and now have gotten my mom in on the fun!
    Take care Beth.
    PS Your ootd is fabulous!

  18. Sharon Olsen says:

    Love these outfits! Great with the holidays around the corner.
    So sorry you are dealing with flooding in your basement. Thank goodness for plumbers, electricians, etc.
    This too shall pass! Mr. Style is cheering and guiding you from heaven!
    Take care.

  19. liz wilder says:

    Floods are the worst! Cheering you on from Texas.

  20. Kathy says:

    My husband passed away seven weeks ago from bladder cancer that spread to his spine.Your post today was what I needed.

  21. Lindsey A says:

    My heart goes out to you Beth and indeed all of my fellow readers too who are all joining you in being so generous and honest with your/their feelings and experiences. As an MA in Counseling Psych, and just a human being, all I can say is that my virtual hugs and thoughts are with all of you, and that I would expect and hope that your giving narrative to your emotions brings you some meaning and peace. I for one really appreciate the honesty, knowing that one day it could well be me too and knowing that I’d not be alone should it be my husband who goes first.

    Life is short and we must live it to the fullest while we can, and you certainly do that Beth! That living life to the fullest sentiment includes supporting others. My MIL died earlier this year and being there for my husband and my FIL feels like the least I can do to help them through their loss. Empathy, sympathy and caring are so important in life.

    And to quote Vision from the MCU, “what is grief, if not love persevering”. Love conquers all.

  22. Marianne R Fagioli says:

    Dear Beth, You are truly an inspsiration for me and so many others. You have gone through this with such grace. Keep trying and keep your chin up. Thanks, Marianne

  23. Lisa says:

    I am the only surviving member of my primary family so I have a glimpse of your pain. TBH, my relationship with my parents and brother has not ended. I think about them and continue to remember the good times and try to resolve any unresolved issues. I really wish my mom was alive so I could tell her “yeah you were right!”
    Your outfit is
    lovely as usual.

  24. Beth, yes you are wright about loosing your partner.
    I have not go thru that lost yet!!
    But some of my friends haved, and they said the same as you.
    Your cloth is beautiful as usual!!
    Have a nice day

  25. Haydee Garcia says:

    You make clothes look so beatiful! I tried those same pant on and look as if they were PJ’s.

  26. Dottie says:

    I’ve been following you for about a year now and I really love your style! My hubby is still alive, but he had a cerebral hemorrhage six years ago followed by a stroke. He has visual and physical limitations plus his personality change. I have to do everything around here. I’ve gotten much better at it, but when it all happens at the same time, I have a meltdown. For example: the garage door wouldn’t close, we sprung a leak in the basement, and my credit card got hacked! At times like this I try to remain calm and ask myself if I want to be part of the problem or part of the solution. I don’t think we give ourselves enough credit. We’re all stronger than we think. I admire you for how you have managed to keep going after your loss. God bless you.

  27. Barbara Lacy says:

    I’ve got these components, just never thought of putting them together in a more casual look, many thanks for the idea!

  28. Liz Padilla says:

    Thank you for your wonderful attitude and honesty, Beth. One would never know that the woman in those amazing satin pants was knee deep in a storm. You are an inspiration for those of us who are also experiencing life’s little adventures. Each one is definitely a lesson in patience and grace.

  29. Jane says:

    Blessings and prayers of strength and peace for you. I haven’t lost a husband but mine has congestive heart failure, stage 3 kidney failure and can only walk with a walker…..so I do have to carry more than I would like, too. Miss his helping hand as well as his “used to be personality”. But life is still beautiful!

    Love your combinations. I can see getting a lot of use from those lovely pants. Would have never thought to put it with the leopard. Very nice! Wonderful! Always love the black/cream combo with velvet smoking slippers. Look forward to this during the holidays.

  30. Sue says:

    Your message today meant so much to me. My husband passed away in February after 65 years of marriage. I’m learning exactly how you feel. Being responsible for all decision-making and handling so many chores around the house that we used to share is difficult. I’m so fortunate to have 3 sons and 3 daughters-in-law to help me. But miss sharing with my “partner”. Evenings are the loneliest time of the day. It has been so good of you to share your thoughts and feelings with your readers. Thank you so much. Keep up the good job. Look forward to your e-mail every day.
    P.S. Love your outfits today.

  31. Judy says:

    You are such an inspirational woman!
    Thank you for your wisdom and insight into life.

    Your post today really caught my eye and I’m now waiting for my new satin pants and will style them as you did. Fabulous!!!

  32. Sorry to hear about your flood and all the maintenance you’re suddenly handling alone.
    I’m glad you got help you out a bit and to handle these issues in a speedy manner!

    You look great in these beautiful satin pants! So many options!

  33. Gwen says:

    Lovely post. I empathize with you and all your new life experiences. It has to be difficult and I’m sure some days are handled better than others. Your sharing of what you are going through is so helpful to all of us. You’re in my thoughts and always in my heart❤ I love these slacks, I am calling these a must have!!

  34. Katherine says:

    Dear Beth,

    My heart sincerely breaks for you to have to deal with the tropical storm Fred, and the havoc and how it flooded your basement. To handle and deal with these sort of things with your home all by your self is so “over the top” difficult. I just want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank goodness the carpet was removed awhile back.
    I admire your strength and backbone. You are an amazing lady. I am giving you a big pat on the back. Thank goodness you are able to reach out for
    helping hands, and someone is present
    to help you.
    Warm hugs,

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  36. Nancy says:

    I am so sorry for your loss Beth. Since I am fairly new to your blog, I don’t know what all you shared about your husband, but when you do write something now, like today I think of my cousin who lost her husband a few years ago in a biking accident. You enlighten me to some of the things she must be going through as well. So sad to lose your partner when you still have so much life to live. So sorry…

    “Party pants!”I love it! Wish this post was a few days ago prior to me coming across a bevy of “party pants” at a favorite store on vacation! I passed over them thinking I didn’t know how to style them and really had no place to wear them. I’m curious, where would you wear the first outfit, the one with the leopard top? Out to dinner would seem to be the answer. Not during the day, or would you?

  37. Anon says:

    I hear you, Beth.

    We are still dealing with damage from a hail storm last year. This meant replacing our roof, siding and eavestroughs, as well as a sliding patio door. This happened at the peak of the pandemic, while construction materials were in short supply, and 70,000 other homes in our city were in line ahead of us for repairs due to an earlier storm. The door is still on order.

    Worst of all during this pandemic time was my father’s failing health and death. I was the only one allowed in to support him during his final months. Now we’re deeply into the fourth wave of the pandemic. The funeral is delayed, due to the backlog from the pandemic. It might not ever happen if we’re shut down again.

    I can’t imagine dealing with all of this on my own. I just can’t. You are in my thoughts.

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  39. Lyn says:

    Beth, I admire your candor about how you are feeling being on your own. So many bloggers portray nothing but happiness. We need to remember that we are all merely human. I must say that even though we have been married for 50 years I am the driving force in our household – I am going to be calling a plumber next week, I took care of an arborist to come and take down a large tree last week, I am in charge of car repairs, and I have a driveway sealer company arriving next week, and I am in charge of all our finances and investments. We are doing a downsizing move nearer to family next year – and yes, I am in charge of that as well. My husband takes care of all outdoor yard work, although I could do that if I had to. We do discuss plans, but I am the one that puts them in motion. I know that I will be able to take care of myself if/when that day comes when I am alone. I keep a running list of projects to be accomplished. We ladies are much stronger than we know.

  40. Kenzie says:

    My heartfelt sympathy to you. I admire the way you have coped with the loss of Mr Style. He sounded like a lovely man. I imagine coping with all the vicissitudes of life on your own can be hard. But you always appear to have an inner strength. Stay strong.
    Love the cream and black outfit – very stylish.

  41. krista rogers says:

    I’m sorry to ask in the wrong post, but did you buy a pair of red perforated comfort shoes recently due to a leg injury? I might have my blogger’s mixed up. I’m looking for that shoe….

  42. Jan says:

    Beth, I know exactly how you feel. Have been a widow for almost nine years. Life can be wonderful and sometimes scary when faced with doing so much alone.
    You are amazing and an inspiration

  43. Margaret Johnson says:

    Love the look with the denim jacket.
    Your post today also hit it right on regarding grief. I have been a widow for almost 5 years. No fun having to make decisions and take care of a home by yourself. The worst is missing your soulmate. Life does move forward though and we must move with it. I think our spouses would want us to move forward and be happy.

  44. Lin de Miller says:

    Hi, Beth
    That is cool, adding the jean jacket…great
    idea! Love your sunnies, too with it and your signature smooth side sweep hairstyle.

  45. Mary says:

    Hi Beth,
    My husband died in March 2019. I feel your pain. The message is clear – we (I) am it! We have to be glad we can get it done, by ourselves! I enjoy your blog, your constancy and your attitude. I have a pair of black satin pants. Do I wear them often? No. Am I keeping them anyway? Yes! your post gives me new ideas. Thank you!

  46. Kathleen McDermott says:

    You are beautiful, wise and caring. Despite your profound loss, you maintain your inner child, which we all have if we keep it alive. That is evident as you seem to delight in all forms of beauty, joy and magic – pretty clothes, lovely home, your sons, your animal friends, nature, etc. I hope each day brings you, and the other ladies enjoying your blog, small treasures to soothe the soul. P.S. Both looks are winners. You’ve such an eye.

  47. Joanie says:

    Hi Beth
    I am sorry you had to contend with a flooded basement by yourself. It’s a good thing you have those finished concrete floors as opposed to carpet! Mr Style would be so proud of everything you are doing. And, you do it with grace, strength, beauty and style. I simply love both looks with the satin pants. You always give me great fashion ideas. I love reading your posts. We had derecho winds in Iowa a year ago. We needed a new roof and all ceilings replaced. We still need to have the garage ceiling finished. Then done. It has been a long haul. Right before the pandemic, we lost my MIL, my uncle, then my mother in a four month time span. I am thankful we could celebrate their lives at the time with dear friends and relatives attending. I feel blessed for that. Thank you. Joanie from Iowa

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