august 6th is a very special day in the djalali family. back in 1983, this is the date the djalali house was established. like clockwork when the calendar rolls around to the sixth of august mr. style and i throw on some special duds and celebrate our anniversary. this year marks number thirty-five. considering i remember when i turned thirty-five it’s definitely a number to be reckoned with. it has substance and longevity. forgive me if i tear up for a moment remembering our wedding day, but there were so many smiling faces celebrating that special day that are no longer with us. i’m certain the same holds true for you. if we’ve walked this earth for any number of years, we’ve tearfully bid farewell to loved ones. like my dad who battled cancer when wedding preparations were in full swing, and he walked me down the aisle. what a handsome fifty-year-old he was with glints of silver streaking through his hair. no one would have guessed the health woes dealt with this man if you weren’t personally acquainted with him. until the bitter end, he was always the picture of vitality and strength. in the back of my mind, i always thought he just might beat this disease. i’m pretty sure the same thoughts swirled in his head too – we were so alike in so many ways. and my mother who stood by his side looking as beautiful as ever in an up-to-date knee-length dress of her choosing. a white hat perched on top of her head. then there was my nana, white hair coiffed in her typical ‘do’ doling out advice and giving me a smooch on my lips every chance she had. a smile spread wide on her face lined with wrinkles. how i loved each one knowing my love was returned in full measure.
it’s funny, but after thirty-five years no one remembers when the djalali’s weren’t a family of five – mr. style, me, alex, andrew, and christian pulling up the rear. but at the beginning, it was just me and mr. style venturing out on our own. we weren’t necessarily kids at the time of our nuptials. mr. style was thirty-one, and this girl was just about to turn twenty-five. but take a look at those baby faces that went out into the world with only a hope and a prayer.
some say marriage should be split fifty/fifty. sounds fair, doesn’t it? honestly, who wants to tackle an overflowing basket of laundry on sunday night? or make that overdue dentist appointment? hire help if it’s in your budget. not only does it spur the economy but there’s one less thing on your to-do list to hassle over. but there’s rarely a time when life is evenly divided. with chores or anything else. sometimes the load weighs in at eighty/twenty, other times thirty/seventy. and there are those rare occasions when it’s one hundred to zero. life has a way of throwing a curve ball any time it wants – three strikes you’re out. having a partner by your side through thick and thin is far more important than who’s washing the dishes on any given night. through the years mr. style and i have weathered life-threatening diseases, promotions, job losses, surgeries, births, award ceremonies, selling homes, buying homes, car accidents, baseball games, soccer parties, blizzards, tornadoes, and typhoons. let’s not even talk about teaching our boys to drive, handing over the keys to the car, or college tuition… but then college graduations soon followed, and we knew it was worth every penny. life is good for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, to have and to hold, until death do us part.
so what’s the secret to a happy marriage? well, to begin with, happiness is a feeling that comes and goes at will. love is a verb and based on commitment. so choose love over happiness. and never stop dating. that’s right, mr. style and i have been going out on dates every week for thirty-five years.
remember, you’re on the same team. mr. style and i have very different approaches to life, but we have the same common goals. remembering that we’re a team and that teams work together helps get us through our differences. and teammates always have your back!
fight fair. be respectful and never ever take a pot shot in the heat of the moment. words can be forgiven but never taken back.
sexy is as sexy does. what’s better than watching your husband brave a torrential downpour, climb into the car and drive within an inch of where you’re standing? now that’s what i call sexy.
enjoy things on your own. and let your partner have their own interests too. you’ll both be far more interesting because of it. mr. style loves to play golf, and i love to read.
sex is important. not only does it release endorphins that make you feel fantastic, sex improves your mood, relieves stress and calms you down. according to studies, sex helps you look younger. it’s not just your imagination, ladies; you really do look better after having sex. your skin glows!
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take care of your appearance. it’s easy to let your looks slide at any age let’s face it there are so many competing priorities for our time and energy. or we may even think it sounds shallow. and, no, you don’t have to look like helen mirren when you flop on the couch at nine pm, and it’s time to wrangle with the remote control. but there’s something bigger at stake. when we look and feel our best, the world notices and so does our husband.
learn how to agree to disagree. respect each other’s differences. it’s what makes the world go round.
don’t try to change your spouse. the only person you can ever change is yourself, and that’s a full-time job and then some. accept your partner exactly as they are.
say thank you. and don’t forget to laugh – at life, at yourself, at each other. laughter doeth good like medicine.
a big thank you to the talented Chloe Enos Photography for these amazing photographs. if you live in the Atlanta area and in need of a photo shoot, please check out this talented woman. just sayin’!
and a bigger thank you to mr. style a.k.a. mak. together we’re makbeth (he loves to share that intel at cocktail parties). this is the man behind the camera on any given day at Style at a Certain Age. and my partner in crime for thirty-five years and counting. happy anniversary!
is the Founder and CEO of Style at a Certain Age. She writes Sundays-Fridays on all topics ranging from fashion, health, wellness, home design and more.
She’s 63, 5’8, and size 8.
Oh I love this post, Beth! So great to see Mak in front of the camera, you two make a gorgeous couple. Happy anniversary!
What a marvelous post – love seeing the two of you! Congrats on 35 – we’ve just passed 45 and agree with all your wise words! Wishing you decades more of love together –
Happy 35th Anniversary to you both! With lots of best wishes for many more!!!
Lovely photos. Great advice! Happy Anniversary!
Congratulations to you and Mr Style! I wish you many many many more years together. Great advice! We will be married 37 years this Sept. We were young when we married (he was 20 and I was 19) and only knew each other 6 months – but we knew it was love (as a verb as you said – NOT a feeling). God has been first and foremost in our lives next to our commitment to each other.
And I LOVE all the pictures! Made me smile – a lot! 😊
Again … congratulations and here’s to many more… 🥂❤️🎂💐
At almost 32 years of marriage, I appreciated your history and thoughts. Sad that in this day, 35 year marriages and marriage in general, are an anomaly. Best wishes to you both.
These pictures are so lovely! Happy Anniversary and may God continue to bless your endearing marriage.
What a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing!
Major Congrats to you. So smart to capture this day in this way. What a handsome man and such a lovely couple.
I love this post. What you write about marriage is so true. We celebrate 36 years on the 14th. And it just keeps getting better.
Here’s to 30+ more, for us all!
Thanks for such a wonderful post on marriage.
By far my most favorite post of all time on your BLOG. Such lovely photos and such an incredible testimony to the power of love in marriage. I am saving this post to share with my young adult and teen children who are getting closer to joining in union with their own loves. Marriage can be crazy challenging at times but the joy and love involved is so worth it! Happy Anniversary❤️
Congratulations! Happy anniversary! I loved this post. It says it all for anyone with a great marriage! We are working on 47 years. Oh, by the way the pictures are outstanding! Thanks for sharing!
Happy Anniversary, Beth and Mr. Style! And thank you, Beth, for sharing the work about the FASTer Way to Fat Loss. I’ve just finished 6 weeks and have signed on for 6 more weeks. Carol
What a handsome couple. He could be a model Too! Happy Anniversary, I also love to hear when two people last as long as you both have.
Happy Anniversary to you and Mr. Style. How delightful to see him in front of the camera! Your post is filled with such wonderful advice (really on most aspects of life) and you both have continued to grow more beautiful with time.
Happy Anniversary! What a great post! You guys look so happy together! This was a great day brightener!
Thanks for sharing such personal moments. Behind every great woman is a wonderful man! Big year for you, Beth. Don’t you have a landmark birthday coming up soon, too.
I agree with all you said, Happy Anniversary. We just celebrated our 56 th and I just don’t know where the time went,,, it seems like yesterday.
Love this post, Beth. On Aug. 3 my husband and I celebrated our 46th anniversary. You two look so happy and elegant.
beautiful post Beth! Happy anniversary!
Oh what a beautiful post, you two look dashing – may you celebrate many more anniversaries.
Wow, Beth🌹 Thank you for sharing the fun and wisdom, too! I can see why you call him Mr.Style. He’s very handsome and a stylish and good dresser. Happy Anniversary!
Happy anniversary! I love your dress and accessories. So great to see Mr. Style, loved this post…good advice for all 🙂
Wonderfully written. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and congrats from Norway!
Happy Anniversary!!! Wishing you many many more!
Such a wonderful post with so many insights into a long marriage, thank you for sharing.
We will celebrate 33 years in a few weeks and can relate to so many things you mention, especially the 50/50 topic.
Cheers to the two of you!
Love this! Such great advice. Never stop laughing too. The one piece of advice my mother gave me was to marry a man who makes you laugh — it will get you through a lot of hard times. Thanks for sharing your relationship — loved getting a glimpse of the dashing Mr. Style!
What a great milestone you are celebrating together! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us – I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. Happy anniversary & may you & Mr. Style share many more in the years to come!
Congratulations to you both. You make a very handsome couple. Loved hearing about your life together. It sounds to me like you found the perfect formula that works for you both 👍💙
happy anniversary to a good looking couple.
Great Description of a good marriage! Congratulations from Switzerland. Miranda
Happy anniversary to both of you!!! Looking gorgeous together!
Very very happy anniversary, you are the cutest couple, looking very lively god bless you both.
Happy Anniversary! I don’t think I’ve commented here before, but I’ve been reading awhile. This is a lovely, lovely post. So embarrassing when you’re so happy for complete strangers. 🙂
Happy anniversary to you both! It’s a beautiful post Beth, I had tears in m eyes. <3
Beautiful pictures and very wise words. Happy anniversary!
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